Judaism dating

24 Feb

After the match has been proposed, the prospective partners meet a number of times to gain a sense of whether they are right for one another.

The number of dates prior to announcing an engagement may vary by community. In stricter communities, the couple may decide a few days after originally meeting with each other.

For many Orthodox Jews, the concept of not touching—known in Hebrew as is that sex should be kept as something special that happens between a husband and a wife. Anything that could possibly lead to sex outside of marriage is also a no-no.

Others will go as far as having oral sex, while still avoiding the "home run."Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with non-sexual contact, including hugging or dancing.

Yet, when it comes to all that other stuff, I like to think I'm "selectively and wondered how "far" I was willing to go before marriage. Essentially, it's the Orthodox Jewish equivalent of being asked if I give blowjobs regularly.

A shidduch often begins with a recommendation from family members, friends or others who see matchmaking as a mitzvah, or commandment.

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Also the age when shidduchim start may vary by community.

In frum circles, especially among Hassidim, eighteen is the age when shidduchim start and shadchanim take notice.